to avoid injury in the past, I have cycled through techniques - the tongue circling around the clit, sucking the clit back and forth and loosely, sucking the clit more intensely, etc. but this can take a while to build to orgasm (alternating techniques is less tightly rhythmic, for example)
recently I’ve noticed pressing the tongue broadly and with force on and around the clit is really effective, but the problem I run into is that the cadence and build-up sort of lock me into continuing to do that, often faster and at least with similar or more force
this approach gave me a wound that appeared the next day, on the frenulum of the tongue (the little bridge under the tongue), probably from where my teeth rubbed against it?
obviously the tongue and jaw can feel sore, too - but soreness is fine, while having a wound is more problematic
any tips?
I’m kind of accustomed to jaw ache at this point. I find that sucking pretty hard on the clit while going side to side with my tongue works well as does the “fat kid at an all you can eat cake buffet technique” essentially making out with the whole assemblage ( sucking on the labia, clit and gently raking my bottom teeth over the clit). But specifics of technique are very individual so take what I say with a pinch of salt.
Also my current partner kind of likes it when I chew on a habanero before going down on her so that’s something to consider. Absolutely clear that with your partner first though. It’s not the sort of thing you should surprise someone with. 🤪🔥
Insane last bit there. Lol how is that pleasurable?
The “orgasm gels” sold by sex shops have capsaicin as an active ingredient. Albeit in lower concentrations.
Gum! Just enough to line your bottom teeth. Can be a barrier. Also, look into teeth night guards. You wouldn’t need the top part. Just bottom.
I’m going to try your pressure tech. Keep the wife guessing
oh interesting - I could try that!
For the pressure tech, some of my troubleshooting was figuring out the right height. Getting the surrounding labia is part of the appeal, but you still want most of the force right on the clit, and finding the right part of the clit will vary depending on arousal, sensitivity, etc.
but yeah, it worked really well once I figured out where to best apply it 😁
Seems your partner likes lots of direct stimulation. Stupid question: have you tried using your fingers instead of, or as well as, your tongue?
yes! I definitely use fingers, too - I just also like to give head and to find paths to orgasm by different means. Especially if I’m growing my nails out 😄
Problem solved
ha, I do sometimes manage my nails that way - I just hate the way it looks. I don’t mind the index finger and thumb being short, but the middle finger being short while the ring finger is long bothers me. It’s worse because I play bass with my right hand, so both hands occasionally have to be clipped that way.
I get you, I love giving oral too. As suggested elsewhere, a mouthguard should help. You can get them pretty cheaply online or in larger supermarkets. :)
I’m here for tips, I know just what you’re talking about, but no clue what to do about it.
I’ve even considered trying to find a body mod place that would cut the frenulum to try and get a longer tongue. Lol
huh, I don’t feel like I need a longer tongue per se, but maybe finding a way to protect the frenulum from my teeth and some tongue strengthening exercises and stretches might help? 🤷♀️
Mechanical tongue extensions.
sounds complicated and potentially harder to use effectively - I’m usually constantly updating and relating to my partner through what my senses tell me, using something like a prosthetic would make me less responsive and thus less effective, I think
That just means you gotta rev the engine harder
I can’t tell how much experience you’re speaking from here, but generally in my experience you also have to know when and how hard to rev the engine, and also where … it’s a harder job when you have less direct feedback
I’m just yanking your chain~
oh, so I’m the engine? I think the carburetor is choked
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been there, tried that, lol
