This is kind of the logic that hurts me. People like me will express that those terms make them uncomfortable, but someone will argue that they’ll use gendered words with the intent to be gender neutral. But like…it’s not very empathetic to disregard someone’s feelings because using ‘girl’ is uncomfortable. It’s kind of putting your feelings above there’s. If you have the opportunity to be kind and affirming, to make someone feel safe and comfortable in the world, why not embrace that? A simple change in your language could make someone’s entire day.
Nobody (including you) should put other peoples’ feeling above your own, as that is an extremely unhealthy thing to do. Being considerate of someone’s feelings and sacrificing your own feelings for someone else are two very different things.
The people I talk to don’t mind the way I talk, and that is how I judge my language. I also make sure that I give them the environment necessary to express their discomfort with my language if they have any.
Do you have any non-gendered alternatives to “dude” and “bro?”
Nobody (including you) should put other peoples’ feeling above your own
I kinda see where you’re coming from, but I wholeheartedly disagree.
You should never put your needs below anyone else’s, but I’d argue that it’s very healthy to mildly inconvenience yourself in order to avoid majorly inconveniencing or hurting others. In fact I’d say that’s kind of the entire cornersone of human civilization.
Yes, and every time someone is bothered by my language, I change my language specifically for them, like how I call my transfem friends by their name instead of saying “dude”, etc.
This is kind of the logic that hurts me. People like me will express that those terms make them uncomfortable, but someone will argue that they’ll use gendered words with the intent to be gender neutral. But like…it’s not very empathetic to disregard someone’s feelings because using ‘girl’ is uncomfortable. It’s kind of putting your feelings above there’s. If you have the opportunity to be kind and affirming, to make someone feel safe and comfortable in the world, why not embrace that? A simple change in your language could make someone’s entire day.
Nobody (including you) should put other peoples’ feeling above your own, as that is an extremely unhealthy thing to do. Being considerate of someone’s feelings and sacrificing your own feelings for someone else are two very different things.
The people I talk to don’t mind the way I talk, and that is how I judge my language. I also make sure that I give them the environment necessary to express their discomfort with my language if they have any.
Do you have any non-gendered alternatives to “dude” and “bro?”
I kinda see where you’re coming from, but I wholeheartedly disagree.
You should never put your needs below anyone else’s, but I’d argue that it’s very healthy to mildly inconvenience yourself in order to avoid majorly inconveniencing or hurting others. In fact I’d say that’s kind of the entire cornersone of human civilization.
Yes, and every time someone is bothered by my language, I change my language specifically for them, like how I call my transfem friends by their name instead of saying “dude”, etc.