On this note, somewhere else online, I was recently seeing wild amounts of discourse about whether or not it’s biphobic for a lesbian to refuse to date a bisexual woman on the basis of her sexuality.

You had so many people myopically spewing out, “it CAN’T BE BiphObIC BEcauSE IT’s JUST a prEfereNCE!”

And I don’t understand how someone can be so narrow-minded when it comes to understanding that a statement like “Bisexual people are more likely to be cheaters” doesn’t magically become not biphobic just because you put a “I don’t want to date a bisexual person because…” in front of it. How does that logically even add up in their minds? The fact that they can so unabashedly and with so much conviction state these really emotionally charged takes about this subject just speaks on the oblivious nature of bigotry. It’s never about what’s true—it’s always about vibes.

Bigotry always manifests as a “preference,” but people just act like, for some reason, the nature of these bigoted preferences becomes not bigoted when it’s in the context of dating. An employer saying, “I only want to hire whites because they’re the smartest and most hard-working race” has a “preference” for white workers, and many people would think it’s ridiculous to say “This employer can’t be racist because it’s just a preference!”

And this goes both ways. Not only does this logic excuse bigoted EXCLUSIONARY dating preferences, but it also gives things like FETISHISM a pass. One thing I’m tired of is people acting like racial fetishism is not a form of racism. It is. Racial fetishism is rooted in harmful generalizations. There’s no denying that. People really think that just because a form of racism is “benevolent,” then that makes it not racism. This being false is one of the easiest things to understand about racism, but cracKKKers continue to get away with it because your average cracKKKer does not actually give a damn about unlearning white supremacy. So long as a form of racism is socially acceptable and easy for them to get away with, cracKKKers don’t tend to care about it. Anti-racism and statements against white supremacy serve as a virtue signaling game for them.