😄 I definitely have worked on my view of men, transitioning has given me a chance to untangle my hatred of men from my hatred & shame from having lived as a man.
But yeah, one person in my life said that the only “sign” she noticed before I transitioned was that my feminism and anger against men felt unusually personal (as if I had been personally victimized by men), which was confusing to her because she thought I was a man.
Nowadays I guess you could say I’m in rehabilitation from my misandry. It’s hard when men continue to victimize so many, but I try to remember it’s a minority of men and that patriarchy is about a whole system of power that includes class, race, etc. and isn’t just about gender. It also helps to recognize the ways patriarchy victimizes men, as well.
My education on feminism has grown significantly as a result of my transition, but I feel like I’m still in the baby steps in a way. Lots of work to do.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it’s hard not to get at least a little misandrist when we’re forced to live inauthentically, while being constantly associated with the patriarchy like we’re one of them. You’ve clearly acquired a lot of wisdom over your journey, and it’s nice to hear that your transition brought you peace and clarity.
I spent my entire life afraid of men, for a number of reasons, and worried about cis women being afraid of me for the exact same reasons I was afraid. While in the closet, I would obsess over looking as non-intimidating as possible and never felt like I could achieve it. At the same time, some of my best friends are men, and they’re genuinely wonderful people. I’m not sure they would have become my best friends if I’d been born a cis girl.
If there’s anything “good” that came out of my upbringing, it’s that I got to see and better understand the best versions of masculinity too.
😄 I definitely have worked on my view of men, transitioning has given me a chance to untangle my hatred of men from my hatred & shame from having lived as a man.
But yeah, one person in my life said that the only “sign” she noticed before I transitioned was that my feminism and anger against men felt unusually personal (as if I had been personally victimized by men), which was confusing to her because she thought I was a man.
Nowadays I guess you could say I’m in rehabilitation from my misandry. It’s hard when men continue to victimize so many, but I try to remember it’s a minority of men and that patriarchy is about a whole system of power that includes class, race, etc. and isn’t just about gender. It also helps to recognize the ways patriarchy victimizes men, as well.
My education on feminism has grown significantly as a result of my transition, but I feel like I’m still in the baby steps in a way. Lots of work to do.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I think it’s hard not to get at least a little misandrist when we’re forced to live inauthentically, while being constantly associated with the patriarchy like we’re one of them. You’ve clearly acquired a lot of wisdom over your journey, and it’s nice to hear that your transition brought you peace and clarity.
I spent my entire life afraid of men, for a number of reasons, and worried about cis women being afraid of me for the exact same reasons I was afraid. While in the closet, I would obsess over looking as non-intimidating as possible and never felt like I could achieve it. At the same time, some of my best friends are men, and they’re genuinely wonderful people. I’m not sure they would have become my best friends if I’d been born a cis girl.
If there’s anything “good” that came out of my upbringing, it’s that I got to see and better understand the best versions of masculinity too.