This is the best take. Imo it’s weird to expect random strangers to empathize on a personal level when the conversation starter is essentially “fuck your kind”. Then if you call them on it, you are accused of being defensive. Some people act like you cannot object to something on objective grounds if the playing field isn’t already level, so the victim should always get a pass. Yeah, if I know you personally that makes sense. But if I don’t and you’re just going to make blanket statements like that, I don’t necessarily understand where you’re coming from and I’m not as prone to empathize. And I generally am empathetic. Imagine how this comes across to people who aren’t. Or actual misogynists. They’re just going to hate women even more. No chance they’re going to see how shitty they’ve been to women when all they read is how their entire gender is trash. You can ask me to see past the phrasing and I might, but you cannot demand it and then expect everyone you encounter to abide, unless you’re okay with a lot of pushback. Probably a lot easier to rethink your word choice.
Sure, I don’t disagree that a public post inevitably elicits responses from all sorts of potential audiences, but I think your choice to center yourself in the comment was kind of revealing.
This is the best take. Imo it’s weird to expect random strangers to empathize on a personal level when the conversation starter is essentially “fuck your kind”. Then if you call them on it, you are accused of being defensive. Some people act like you cannot object to something on objective grounds if the playing field isn’t already level, so the victim should always get a pass. Yeah, if I know you personally that makes sense. But if I don’t and you’re just going to make blanket statements like that, I don’t necessarily understand where you’re coming from and I’m not as prone to empathize. And I generally am empathetic. Imagine how this comes across to people who aren’t. Or actual misogynists. They’re just going to hate women even more. No chance they’re going to see how shitty they’ve been to women when all they read is how their entire gender is trash. You can ask me to see past the phrasing and I might, but you cannot demand it and then expect everyone you encounter to abide, unless you’re okay with a lot of pushback. Probably a lot easier to rethink your word choice.
Who do you think the message is directed at, other women or you?
If they posted it publicly without specifying, is it on me to automatically assume it’s only directed at a particular group?
Sure, I don’t disagree that a public post inevitably elicits responses from all sorts of potential audiences, but I think your choice to center yourself in the comment was kind of revealing.
You didn’t read my comment so kindly go away.