• HalfSalesman@lemm.ee
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    One of the issues is a lot people don’t want to do amateur stuff. They aren’t comfortable even starting because then they’ll start comparing themselves to others and begin self loathing.

    “Ugh, I’m 32 years old and I draw like a 3 year old. Fuck this.”

    This applies to more than just art.

    “I can barely manage to operate the basics of a computer there is no way I’ll ever code.”

    “I have no sense of rhythm and I’m out of shape I’ll never be able to dance and not look terrible.”

    “Can barely socialize platonically at all, there is no way I’ll ever talk to that cute girl/boy, I’m going to die alone.”

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      Agreed! The people I knew who had the deepest and most varied skillsets were:

      • not afraid to look foolish while learning something
      • able to spend a lot of time learning it.

      That’s all it really takes. Sounds easy but it’s not.

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        Its weird, being smart can also bite a person in the ass in this respect. If you are a ruminator or over analyze you’ll spiral yourself away from trying new stuff at a hair trigger.

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          Trying new stuff is also acquiring a new skill. It can also help you get your mind off of something.

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        able to spend a lot of time learning it.

        This is subjective, you have to spend some time to be somewhat proficient in whatever skill, but you don’t have to be a master carpenter to screw two pieces of wood together.

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          Yeah, I remember the first time I tried archery in a VR game. I sucked so bad. But I kept going for 10 hours anyway. I still sucked so bad… but then I went to bed and woke up in the morning and it had all sunk in while I slept. I was immediately pretty good at it then, literally over night. But I had to put in the 10 hours of sucking. Hard to do. I have now put about 100 hours into that character and I pretty much never miss a shot within 50 meters.

          Other skills take way longer. Archery in VR limits alot of variables, no draw weight, the arrow knocks to the same place every time, and the string draws to a fixed max pull back distance. So every shot is the same power level and the arrow flies out at exactly the same horizontal and vertical offset. So it’s actually a pretty relatively easy skill to pick up.

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      It’s really this, people don’t want to dabble in something anymore, just do something for the sake of doing it. My wife always ‘complained’ about me learning to play the guitar for a few weeks, then start painting, but after some time it was writing or programming followe by playing darts. Whatever it was, it was alway pursued as a hobby. Today my wife will comment that our (teenage) kids have it made, since whatever they want to try for a hobby, we will have some stuff laying around to try it.