I’m at a point where I functionally can no longer see myself in a relationship with a non-Black person again. I’ve been thinking a lot on this subject, and my mind has been kind of uncertain these past few months or so.
What I ultimately came to realize is that, in the context of how I view love, there will be always be something critically lacking in any relationship I’d have with a non-Black person.
At first, the thought of continuing to accept non-Black partners seemed possibly within my reach so long as they truly were based, were radical, and understood how to fight against anti-Blackness, and as great as some non-Black people are in these regards, I’m now at a point where the thought of dating any non-Black person feels as right as the thought of dating a conservative.
Of course, that’s not me saying it’s as bad—hell no. My point is that it just indescribably feels “off” in a way that no amount of other things we have in common can reconcile. Very much needed solidarity will always be missing.
Ideally, I want a partner who has a lot of things in common with me (the aforementioned 5 traits I’ve brought up several times). However, to keep my pool somewhat open, I’m going to base my search for a partner (when I’m ready—not a priority at the moment) off of these three things: Blackness, queerness, and veganism.
I’ll go from there, but what I can certainly say now is that I will never entertain romantic and/or intimate encounters with non-Black people ever again.
I’m at a point where I functionally can no longer see myself in a relationship with a non-Black person again. I’ve been thinking a lot on this subject, and my mind has been kind of uncertain these past few months or so.
I landed in a different position, but I think this is something a lot of Black people have to reckon with internally at some point, and I’m glad you found your answer!
hope you all have a good next week
I’m at a point where I functionally can no longer see myself in a relationship with a non-Black person again. I’ve been thinking a lot on this subject, and my mind has been kind of uncertain these past few months or so.
What I ultimately came to realize is that, in the context of how I view love, there will be always be something critically lacking in any relationship I’d have with a non-Black person.
At first, the thought of continuing to accept non-Black partners seemed possibly within my reach so long as they truly were based, were radical, and understood how to fight against anti-Blackness, and as great as some non-Black people are in these regards, I’m now at a point where the thought of dating any non-Black person feels as right as the thought of dating a conservative.
Of course, that’s not me saying it’s as bad—hell no. My point is that it just indescribably feels “off” in a way that no amount of other things we have in common can reconcile. Very much needed solidarity will always be missing.
Ideally, I want a partner who has a lot of things in common with me (the aforementioned 5 traits I’ve brought up several times). However, to keep my pool somewhat open, I’m going to base my search for a partner (when I’m ready—not a priority at the moment) off of these three things: Blackness, queerness, and veganism.
I’ll go from there, but what I can certainly say now is that I will never entertain romantic and/or intimate encounters with non-Black people ever again.
I landed in a different position, but I think this is something a lot of Black people have to reckon with internally at some point, and I’m glad you found your answer!