so, a while ago, i broke up with my ex (19f) and i decided things would be better as friends and that i only saw her that way.

she told everyone we got back together and that i was her bf. she also told me “i still love you, but i think it’s wrong to cheat” because i got a gf since we broke up.

  • rc__buggy@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    28·
    1 day ago

    Don’t just block her, make your stance crystal clear.

    “We are not together. I am in another relationship. I understand you have feelings for me but it is not mutual. I feel that being friends is not going to work either. Goodbye.” would be an example.

  • dumblederp@aussie.zoneEnglish
    15·
    1 day ago

    You gotta break up with her again. Don’t be friends, she’s not able to handle “friendship”. Even if people are staying friends they should take a few months apart to let things settle.

  • magnetosphere@fedia.io
    12·
    1 day ago

    “I’m not cheating. We broke up. Your next boyfriend will be glad that you think cheating is wrong, though.”

  • RagnarokOnline@programming.devEnglish
    13·
    1 day ago

    Unfortunately, there are times where there’s no way to “be liked by everyone” and “have healthy boundaries”. Now is the time to be firm with boundaries.

    Wishing you luck

  • TootSweet@lemmy.worldEnglish
    41·
    1 day ago

    Yeah, this unfortunately can only be addressed by fully blocking her in every way you can. Phone, social media, everything. Never agree to see/meet her in person even in public. If you run into her in person, say only that you’re no longer in a relationship and then walk away and ignore her entirely.

  • Onomatopoeia@lemmy.cafeEnglish
    34·
    1 day ago

    Yea, this is why I think the “remain friends” think makes no sense.

    You broke for reasons, seems those reasons would preclude wanting to be friends.