I think couples therapy is a good idea. It is very likely that both of you have things to work on. I also have my own experiences of making mistakes in the past, then getting so upset with myself I don’t leave any mental capacity to actually try to improve. Medications and therapy for my ADHD has helped a lot on that. Some resources that may be helpful are on YouTube. How to ADHD and Healthy Gamer GG are ones I am aware of.
Basically it is the trendy word to say, “This thing does not align to my narrow world view and is therefore bad and wrong.”
Before I got a diagnosis I was able to get bupropion from my GP. My experience is that it toned down the intensity of emotions making them more manageable. Since it is non stimulant it should side step the drug test issue.
I have stimulant meds now, taking bupropion and stimulant together is proving very effective for me.
Sounds like you might have buried it instead of processing. Perfectly understandable response, but I’m glad you got an opportunity to process in your own way.
My wife and I were living together for more than a decade before we got married. Our primary reasons for getting married were tax benefits and reducing legal complications if one of is in the is hospitalized or dies. Our wedding was followed at the court house followed by a very fancy lunch with 2 friends that acted as our witness’s.
Getting married has made no real difference in our relationship, besides now we split a joint tax return.
When mine did that it required a battery replacement. Got replacement from this site: https://batterysharks.com/. Also, maybe you should stop doing things that aren’t absolutely necessary until you’ve taken a nap.
I would stay away from kubernets/k3/k8s. Unless you want to learn it for work purposes, it’s so overkill you can spend a month before you get things running. I know from experience. My current setup gives you options and has been reliable for me.
NAS Box: Truenas Scale - You can have UnRaid fill this role.
Services Hosting: Proxmox - I can spin up any VMs I need and lots of info online to do things like hardware passthrough to VMs.
Containers: Debian VM - Debian makes a great server environment as it’s stable and well supported. I just make this VM a docker swarm host. I managed things with Portainer for a web interface.
I keep data on the NAS and have containers access it over the network. Usually a NFS share.
I didn’t know that Cunningham’s law also applies to couples counseling. lol