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  • I’m in NZ. Theoretically we’re listed as each other’s primary emergency contacts, so that shouldn’t be an issue. I just hope we never have to find out.

    As for children, property etc. NZ has this idea of a defacto relationship, which you can enter into either by living together for 2 years, or by having a child together. It offers the same protections that marriage does. I think it gets a bit greyer if you just have a child together, but living together for 2 years is as good as a marriage in this regard.

    Where it matters the most is if one of us passes away, but that can be negated through a will.

    It could matter if we ever decided to move out of the country, but I don’t see us doing that in a hurry. We’ll cross that bridge if we ever get to it



  • Marriage is a big ceremony where you declare that this person is now your family in front of the people most important to you. From that angle I’m on board.

    Where I’m out is that you have to register that with the govt. I HATE that. I’m in a het relationship, and gay marriage is legal here, so I have no idea why that irks me so much, but it’s like, who the fuck are they to tell me my marriage isn’t real because it’s not registered with them?

    Here there aren’t even any good tax benefits, so I really don’t see the point.

    We’ll probably have a ceremony, but it won’t be a legal marriage.