Hi ladies! Today CheeseToastie created a new community for women’s interests (makeup, skincare, health, nail polish, etc). I’ve agreed to share it around so if you’re interested, come join us at [email protected]
(Mods, if this type of post isn’t allowed, my apologies!)
I thought it was going to be a community of women just talking about their interests. Instead, you list a bunch of stereotypical things…
For example I’m a woman and I don’t even like nail polish and my brother does.
That’s OK! It just feels like lemmy has too few places for us to congregate and discuss our interests or experiences as women or femme-leaning folks. The things I listed are just examples, not an exhaustive list. But some of us are into stereotypical things, and that’s valid too. I’m sure most people are a mix - e.g., I like nail polish and weightlifting; also makeup and building things.
This type of post is allowed… but this is a community for transfeminine people. I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with that community per se, but I would definitely prefer it if they explicitly mentioned somewhere that transfem nonbinary people are welcome in their community too.
Otherwise I think this post might fall on the side of against the cardinal rule of this community. That being “this is a safe space for transfeminine people”. The fact that enbies specifically seem to be excluded inclines me towards removing it.
I’ll talk to the mod about making the verbiage more inclusive. Thanks!
Hi there. Whilst we appreciate the thought this feels unnecessarily gender essentialist, and exclusionary to people who aren’t women and still enjoy such things.
It’s a good idea for a community, but perhaps it needs a better name? After all we feel like we shouldn’t be promoting the idea that only women are interested, or are the only ones allowed to be interested, in such things.
Hmm…do you have a suggestion for a better name?
I do understand your stance on this; the first rule does say women only… is it exclusive, oh definitely, but there are so many other communities that can support the same topics that are open to everyone. I think if the admins/mods of that community would like a space for women to talk to other women, we should just let them do their thing 🩷 I don’t think they are saying only women can like those things, but sometimes girls just want to have their own space (I’m one of those girls). Buut it’s a super new community, and they may rethink and adjust their rules!