I think you misunderstood the meme, it’s not a moral license to allow women to make problematic generalizations like “I hate men” - it’s clearly still problematic.

Instead it’s attempting to explain where women are coming from, to provide context that women are reacting to a situation … and yes, that situation is different for men, that’s the whole point.

So no, when men say they hate women it’s not coming from the same place as women, the situation is not equivalent.