You’re placing the onus on the wrong party. If you tell someone that they just need to take control of a situation in which they have no control, what psychological impact do you think that’ll have on them when they’re inevitably unable to?
This advice is dangerously naive at best, and victim blaming to support existing power structures at worst.
Nobody ever controls a situation entirely. That allows everybody to control something, and to grow from there, in theory. In reality the situation can be so frustrating that it is not possible. Yet whoever wants to, can try.
You’re placing the onus on the wrong party. If you tell someone that they just need to take control of a situation in which they have no control, what psychological impact do you think that’ll have on them when they’re inevitably unable to?
This advice is dangerously naive at best, and victim blaming to support existing power structures at worst.
Nobody ever controls a situation entirely. That allows everybody to control something, and to grow from there, in theory. In reality the situation can be so frustrating that it is not possible. Yet whoever wants to, can try.