My husband is autistic. We used to have arguments about how he would offer solutions to my problem instead of listening and just being there for me. Then we realized he has autism and that’s literally the best way (in his view) to show emotional support. I learned to see it as a sign of love when he offers a solution, and he learned to sometimes just say “that sounds hard” and hug me. We don’t argue much anymore.
My husband is autistic. We used to have arguments about how he would offer solutions to my problem instead of listening and just being there for me. Then we realized he has autism and that’s literally the best way (in his view) to show emotional support. I learned to see it as a sign of love when he offers a solution, and he learned to sometimes just say “that sounds hard” and hug me. We don’t argue much anymore.
More couples in general need to learn some version of the question “Do you want to vent, or do you want my input?”.