I would just like to express my gratitude to everyone for sending me down a rabbit hole of research after reading many comments and relating to almost every single meme that was posted.
After my diagnosis, I have a plan moving forward to help better my decisions and what I should do next. Do it if you are questioning and can afford it, is what I would say!
Samesies! (Sort of, am still on the waiting list.) I used to think: “these stupid “adhd” memes are not specific to ADHD at all, I’m normal and I experience life exactly like this!” Only to realise that not everyone experiences life like this and I am not normal.
Honestly grateful too for everyone here for validating my feelings and making me feel more okay about myself. It has been quite confrontational to realise that what I thought was my identity was actually a disorder, but at the same time quite comforting to know that my struggles are something I can learn to deal with
When I realised I had ADHD, being able to recontextualise my struggles and set aside all the negative self talk allowed me to see that actually, there are parts of my ADHD-ness that I think are really cool. For example, I found it useful to have multiple tasks on my “menu” for a given day, so that I can cycle between them and not get burnt out on any one task. As well as being a strategy to cope with some of my ADHD deficits, it turns out that putting a tricky problem on a back-burner while I focus on something completely different is a great way to generate new ideas and connections about the original task.
Have you found anything like that so far? It took me a while to get to that point, but I think it’s part of the liberation of neurodiversity as a framework — it’s a way of acknowledging the quirks of our brains in a way that isn’t constrained to thinking of ADHD as a disorder.
I have, and it is basically exactly that same thing. Being able to switch contexts quickly can sometimes be a superpower.
Similarly, being suddenly interested in learning a new skill very often but always only for a brief amount of time, has allowed me to get a little bit of knowledge of many things. I’m not an expert on anything but I have had so many hobbies and interests that I can easily pick up new things because there’s always some base knowledge to link it to.
I’ve always thought about getting tested for it but I have no idea where to start. Like, do I have to go to a specific place and see a specific specialist? How do I even find such a place? Also I’m kinda scared of most medications and don’t really want anything too intense. If I do have ADHD it’s not like I can’t function right now so I’m unsure if I should even get tested. I just wish that I’d spend more time and effort on my hobbies. These days I go hard on one of them for a good couple days or weeks and then not touch them again for months or longer.
Just to add: education and diagnosis is getting better, but there are still a lot of psychologists and psychiatrists who have little to no education on adult ADHD. They can use the diagnostic criteria meant for children and often get it wrong. You may find a provider who has updated their education, but the best chance of an accurate diagnosis is to look for somebody that specializes in diagnosing adult ADHD specifically. If the diagnosis involves a detailed history and several appointments with multiple tests, that’s a good sign. If it’s just regular 30-60 minute meetings where you talk and they say you don’t have it, get a second opinion from someone who specializes in this.
Start with your primary care doctor! I asked at my annual exam and had a list of things I had noticed I was struggling with and he saved me the hassle of a second appointment. It did help that most of my issues were inattentive based and VERY obvious from what I’ve been told.
He prescribed a non-stimulant which was also nice but if he hadn’t been my doc for a while he would’ve just given me a referral to who I needed to go to.
Welcome to the club. As someone on my 14th year of diagnosis. It’s a journey that opens your eyes to the misdeeds of adults in our younger years. Who never really gave us the necessary help we needed.
Take it a little easy on that.
Unless you have adults that actively ignored or knew you had ADHD and refused to deal with it you’ve got to cut people a little slack. There’s centuries of raising kids where people forced them to conform, for good or ill. Centuries where adhd was not recognized. Centuries of sweeping mental differences under the rug. They just didn’t know.
We’re barely starting to acknowledge and accept mental health and non-normative brain wiring today, and there are still huge numbers of people that refuse to accept it, want to force conformity, or have some BS clickbait “treatment” for it.
My family is late diagnosis. It really hurt my other half because her parents knew but did nothing. She felt like years of her life were wasted because she never could stick with things that would have advanced her life in positive ways. I was an “inattentive” type that was essentially unrecognized because I wasn’t hyper. No fault of my parents because it wasn’t a thing to look for 40 odd years ago. Now I fit the diagnosis to a T. Even one of our own kids had issues that took us years to figure out even after suspicions on our part. Took the kid to local specialists and they’re all “Nah, normal but difficult kid.” Years more go by with lots of problems and we’re fed up, pay a fortune out of pocket (because insurance doesn’t cover mental treatment if it isn’t a problem) to a legit children’s specialist facility in a metro area and within a week we had a proper diagnosis, things have improved with the kid and our relationship with the kid drastically over the intervening years. Point being that, even though we tried to get a diagnosis it didn’t work, and we had to go out of our way, even if we were unsure of the issue, and spend a lot of money to figure it out. Not everyone has that kind of time, money, or stamina to sort out a difficult kid after already being told the kid is “normal”.
Sorry, WoT response, just offering a perspective.
web of things? war on terror? wide open throttle? world of tanks? weak operator topology? wheel of time? Wojska Obrony Terytorialnej?
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the one that wasn’t on Wikipedia
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and even the Wikipedia page was hard to find amongst all the “British slang for ‘what’” results
