Any advice that starts with “just…” is automatically invalid.
… Make a list and do one at a time.
… Set a reminder.
… Install some time-tracking productivity software on your phone or computer.
… Go for a walk and clear your head.
… Keep a jug of water nearby.The one that got me when I was still undiagnosed still infuriates me to this day.
You just need to apply yourself more.
I tried that and went from a 90 average slacking off to a 92 burning myself out “applying myself” in place of any activity that brought me joy.
I didn’t understand for so long how people could just sit down and do shit, while I hated doing things like dishes so much it made me irrationally angry.
Just knowing I have a problem helped. With some consideration and research I got ideas on how to deal with some of my problems. Example: hate washing dishes? Reduce the number of dishes you have at home and replace as many as possible with dishwasher-safe alternatives (assuming you have a dishwasher). Then they can’t pile up so bad and it becomes less intimidating to take on.
What didn’t help: suggestions from people without ADHD. “Just do it”, “schedule it”, “task tracker”, etc… yeah fuck that.
- Struggle with eating fruit/veg instead of shit snacks? Buy pre-cut stuff.
- Don’t know what to cook? Use a recipe randomizer each week and just buy what you need, or just do 5 pages out of a cookbook or something, idk. Hell for a while I just made the same meals every week, no planning necessary.
- Hate folding clothes? Just don’t. Reduce the amount of clothing you have, get bins for each type of clothing, separate and pile that shit.
“Hate doing [task]? Just dont”
That’s my favorite one. :)
