And then turn on night mode (or the equivalent) of your surround setup and thus compress the dynamic range if you don’t want the loud sounds to sound loud.

You need to put both the TV and media being watched to stereo. If it’s netflix specifically you will need to set it to stereo multiple times cus FU you obviously want this in 5.1 surround sound!

It won’t work all the time either. Sometimes the audio mixing is just bad.