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Cake day: 2025年9月16日

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  • Feeling bad about how you’ve acted in the past is a good thing, it means you’ve grown since then. So even if you don’t recognize it, it means you’ve changed and improved as a person since then. This idea might be what your friend intended to expressive when they said to not focus on the past as much.

    People can only change if they want to, and it sounds like you want to, so you shouldn’t give up hope on becoming the kind of person you feel you’d have to be to get marriage and have a family. The best time to plant a tree is 20 years ago, the second best time is today. You seem to be taking those steps to improve yourself, and in a few years you’ll reflect back on how you are now and see how much you changed. Growth is hard to measure on a day to day basis. Keep up the good work you’ve obviously (to an outsider) been doing to improve.


  • You’re not clear on why you’re posting this, or what you want out of people’s responses.

    You’re not clear on why you think you’re a bad friend, or why you’d be a burden to others just by interacting with them.

    You’re not clear on what you know you have to do, but just aren’t doing.

    Just saying/writing/admitting to something is helpful, because it forces you to confront it (and will be brought up in therapy anyway, so might as well do the prep work now). Just saying outloud the answers might make you realized how silly they are, or how they’re all connected, or what your priorities really are.

    I apologize if this goes against your request, but as I mentioned, you were clear with your expectations.

    I can related to your gas station metaphor, I feel that constantly due to gestures broadly at the world.

    You’re too young to give up on marriage and parenthood, raw data shows that’s not true, you’re not even running behind yet.

    And making one last assumption, but being distant or isolating yourself doesn’t make you a bad friend, and asking for help doesn’t either, only always asking for help and never asking about them does.







  • You have no idea how grateful I am to you right now.

    This has been on my personal project backlog for awhile now. I have run into so many issues and headaches with possible rdp or vnc solutions for my desired use case, especially with wayland being a must have.

    I have recently fell in love with ssh and was planning on looking more into waypipe as a possible route to take as I kept seeing it recommended, but the examples and documentation i found was always “generic” or surface level and didn’t have enough of the pieces I needed to scrape together.

    I’ve been putting it off due to only having surface level knowledge about all the pieces, and you merged like 10 of them in one go.

    My biggest question to you is what is performance like? Like picture quality, audio delay, and latency/responsiveness around mouse and keyboard inputs? How does it compare to using something like an ipkvm, rdp, rust desktop, etc?


  • It’s funny because when I was in school I use to get lectured for not showing my work the way it was taught, but I didn’t like the way it was taught so I came up with my own method. Turns out my method is now what they teach in school (basically, and obviously completely a coincidence).

    If you’d like more research and context, the term to search for is “common core math”.

    Based on your other comments though, you’ve mostly got it down already though, but for the exact steps you’ll be able to find pretty easily.

    Rough example (don’t quote me on it though, not a teacher): 12 x 7 isn’t as “intuitive” as 10 x 7 or 12 x 5. So you do (10 x 7) + (2 x 7) = 70 + 14 = 84. You find the “common” “core” to make it easier, kind of like how we handled multipling fractions. The over all objective is to make it easier to do math quickly in your head, but since they are teaching it to kids, you have to prove you understand the thought process, which makes it seem like it’s just over complicating things.

    Either way though, kudos to you for trying to learn the new way and helping your kid with their homework in general. No matter what your kid will turn out great with a parent who shows they care like you do.