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Cake day: August 10th, 2025

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  • Um, not sure how things are on Lemmy, but I am not a robot and never meant to offend other people here. I’m only speaking from my own brief experience.

    That guy was a sweetheart in other ways, but he was completely ignorant of the risks choking could impose. For him, consent on intimacy meant also consent on choking, since he considered it a part of it.

    And yes, this was a major reason why this relationships lasted for a very short time. We spoke about it and I hope he understood the point. It was over a decade ago, and I always thought that the guy lacked education / understanding, not conscience.

    Also, “on TV” obviously meant porn. I quoted the man.







  • I live in Germany for over 6 years, and come from Russia. I don’t appreciate generalisation, but some things he mentioned just ring the bell. Some Germans I met definitely fit the description, but not the others.

    I don’t think art here is complacent, but I also see how artists from outside of Germany (and generally, foreigners), often tune down their criticism towards Germany.

    At work, my German colleagues are very sensitive if a foreigner criticizes late trains or long bureaucratic procedures. There’s a notion we should be grateful, and if we don’t like something, we should go back to places we like…

    Germans themselves seem to be critical of their society though, so I wonder how it works from the inside.

    Perhaps Ai Weiwei’s point is a perspective of an outsider who’s expected to express gratefulness and complacency.