Yeah it just sounds like really over the top concern dogpiling to me. “Noooooo you can’t use that word like that it is only for lesbians” is really just wrong and older generations are only familiar with the word through “femme fatale” which is never anything to do with being gay.
I wonder, I use it the same as your friend. Like when shopping at op shops (thrift stores) here, the clothing racks are sorted by femme/masc
Yeah it just sounds like really over the top concern dogpiling to me. “Noooooo you can’t use that word like that it is only for lesbians” is really just wrong and older generations are only familiar with the word through “femme fatale” which is never anything to do with being gay.